Why You Need to Show The Middle Finger to Dream-Crushers That Are Holding You Down

by Martin

“Remembering that you are going to die one day is the best way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. Follow your heart.” – Steve Jobs

You need to show the middle finger to all dream-crushers.

I was talking to my pro wrestling coach about a month back about how he was so close to giving up because he was running out of money before he got signed to WWE. There were people who told him to be realistic and you know, grow up. There were dream-crushers present.

This happens to all of us. We get so close to reaching a goal and we give up before we see the end result or we allow detractors to bring us down.

After that speech I looked around me at some of the success stories out there and I realized that I truly believe that it’s insane to not even chase a passion. Sometimes the most unlikely candidates make it at something. And guess what happens? Dream-crushers will say that they got lucky. Then they tell you that you need to grow up and get a job.

Screw that! Being realistic doesn’t mean you have to give up. Growing up doesn’t mean that you have to settle. Right now is the best time ever to do something cool. Why the hell would you squander your precious time being miserable because of dream-crushers?

Who are dream-crushers?

This is anyone that mocks your idea, tells you that you can’t do it, wants you to get a real job, suggests that you grow up, or puts you down instead of providing constructive criticism.

Dream-crushers are all around us. They tell us to grow up and just settle. This video below does a better job of putting all of this into perspective. If you don’t listen to Steve Jobs, then who will you ever take advice from?

I have to make a huge clarification before we move on. A person with a valid criticism is not a dream-crusher nor a hater. They’re simply sharing a criticism that you should take seriously.

For example…

Valid criticism: “I really like your content on the blog, but I feel that you can improve your grammar or your copy.”

Thank you. I’ve received this criticism many times and I always appreciate it.

A dream-crusher: “Your blog sucks. You’re a loser. Grow up. Insert other random insults.”

Thanks for nothing. Here’s the middle finger!

Why do dream-crushers deserve the middle finger?

They don’t have the guts to take the risks that you do, so they just belittle you. They try to bring you down. They want you to get a real job and do something that fits into their reality.

And sadly, dream-crushers will get to you. They’ve gotten to me. I’ve failed so many times at so many different things.

I’ve learned some of the following insights on goals the tough way:

  • Not all dreams lead to millions of dollars.
  • Not all dreams need a special ending.
  • Sometimes the reward is in the journey, not the destination.
  • You will fail and make a fool out of yourself.
  • You will pour everything you have into projects that yield ZERO results.

Does this mean that you should feel bad about yourself? Not at all! Dream-crushers will want you to. In return, you give them the middle finger.

“Realistic is the adjective of cynics. Wherever you encounter skeptics, naysayers, and charlatans, you will always encounter this word.” — Chris Guillebeau

Despite so many dream-crushers rearing their ugly heads in, there’s still so much proof out there that you can build your dream lifestyle.

What’s a great habit to build to help you out?

“I want to be remembered as a person who wasn’t afraid to start things.” — Tina Roth Eisenberg

Trying and failing. Over and over and over again.

Try any of the following today, watch the reactions, and applaud yourself for trying and likely failing:

  • Approach an attractive stranger with the stupidest line in the world.
  • Post something controversial on social media.
  • Share a dream with someone who doesn’t really like you.

Was that so bad? Not at all. You’ve tried and failing. Keep at it.

Before you yell at me — I’m not delusional!

I think it’s completely careless to quit your job without a plan. I also find it to be selfish if you plan on following a passion for no money while those around you suffer because you can’t provide financially.

I blog about money, so I understand the importance of it. This is why I introduced the $1k rule for chasing dreams. Oh and…

I have a newsflash for you: You can do everything in your spare time!

You don’t have to quit your job. You don’t have to eat at the homeless shelter. You don’t have to ruin your quality of life to follow a dream. All you have to do is show up and be ready to show the middle finger to detractors. Can you do that?

Luckily for you, we went over how you can make a colossal lifestyle change without going homeless. You have all of the resources that you need to follow a dream, take a risk, or do something that you’ve always wanted to do.

Are you really going to let a dream-crusher bring you down? No, you’re not. You will give them the middle finger.

Finally — FREE tools to help you follow your dreams.

Guess what? I’ve covered these topics and researched everything to death. I’m here to help you.

The only 6 steps for starting a blog. — Simple and straight to the point. You owe it to the world to share your ideas with us.

The ultimate guide to getting started with freelancing. — I released my Amazon book as free content for those of you that are struggling with your finances. I want to see you make more money.

We will have more premium content coming at you. For now, give those dream-crushers the middle finger and have some damn fun! Let’s finish off with an awesome quote and equally epic picture.

“If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” — Frank Zappa

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{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Leonard @ The Wallet Doctor

Dream crushers are never trying to provide useful insight. They just share an opinion which doesn’t really do much but make the dreamer feel discouraged. Its good to be realistic, but we’ve all got to take some risks to follow our passion. That’s what it takes to live a happy successful life. Thanks for the post!

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2 Martin

Thanks for the comment and visit Leonard!

And you are so right. All they do is discourage us. There’s no benefit to that! Are you actually happy with discouraging someone?

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3 Barbara Friedberg

Hi Martin,

I really enjoyed this one! These are my favorite adages:

Sometimes the reward is in the journey, not the destination. &
You will pour everything you have into projects that yield ZERO results.

Thought provoking and inspirational. Thanks for reaching out on FB:)
Best, Barbara

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4 Martin

Thanks for the comment Barbara. I’m really curious as to how others feel about this. I’m all for personal responsibility and making money, but one can also dream on the side!

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5 Crystal @ Prairie Ecothrifter

Yep, dream crushers can jump in a lake. I have worked on taking and using valid criticism, but I also practice nice and not-so-nice ways to tell naysayers to push off. I don’t have time for you-can’t-do-it since I’m busy doing it. ;-)

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6 Martin

Haha well said. You should never listen to someone telling you that something can’t be done while you’re busy doing it.

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7 Chuck

Great article, Martin. Negative Nancys are all around us, everyday, at every hour! They’re always looking to bring us down to their level of complacency and normality. They pounce on anybody who happens to be deviating from the prescribed path of the wage slave, corporate pencil pusher, just another cog in the gear, the status quo of the new economy. Be different, break the paradigms of society!

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8 Martin

Wow. Those are some serious statements Chuck. Thanks for chiming in. Has anyone tried to bring you down?

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9 Sam

More wrestling pictures and videos MD!

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10 Martin

I wish I could share more video with you! My gym is super strict on that stuff since our trainer works for WWE.

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