“Remembering that you are going to die one day is the best way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. Follow your heart.” — Steve Jobs
You need to show the middle finger to all dream-crushers.
I was talking to my pro wrestling coach about a month back about how he was so close to giving up because he was running out of money before he got signed to WWE. There were people who told him to be realistic and you know, grow up. There were dream-crushers present.
This happens to all of us. We get so close to reaching a goal and we give up before we see the end result or we allow detractors to bring us down.
After that speech I looked around me at some of the success stories out there and I realized that I truly believe that it’s insane to not even chase a passion. Sometimes the most unlikely candidates make it at something. And guess what happens? Dream-crushers will say that they got lucky. Then they tell you that you need to grow up and get a job.
Screw that! Being realistic doesn’t mean you have to give up. Growing up doesn’t mean that you have to settle. Right now is the best time ever to do something cool. Why the hell would you squander your precious time being miserable because of dream-crushers?
Who are dream-crushers?
This is anyone that mocks your idea, tells you that you can’t do it, wants you to get a real job, suggests that you grow up, or puts you down instead of providing constructive criticism.
Dream-crushers are all around us. They tell us to grow up and just settle. This video below does a better job of putting all of this into perspective. If you don’t listen to Steve Jobs, then who will you ever take advice from?
I have to make a huge clarification before we move on. A person with a valid criticism is not a dream-crusher nor a hater. They’re simply sharing a criticism that you should take seriously.
Valid criticism: “I really like your content on the blog, but I feel that you can improve your grammar or your copy.”
Thank you. I’ve received this criticism many times and I always appreciate it.
A dream-crusher: “Your blog sucks. You’re a loser. Grow up. Insert other random insults.”
Thanks for nothing. Here’s the middle finger!
Why do dream-crushers deserve the middle finger?
They don’t have the guts to take the risks that you do, so they just belittle you. They try to bring you down. They want you to get a real job and do something that fits into their reality.
And sadly, dream-crushers will get to you. They’ve gotten to me. I’ve failed so many times at so many different things.
I’ve learned some of the following insights on goals the tough way:
- Not all dreams lead to millions of dollars.
- Not all dreams need a special ending.
- Sometimes the reward is in the journey, not the destination.
- You will fail and make a fool out of yourself.
- You will pour everything you have into projects that yield ZERO results.
Does this mean that you should feel bad about yourself? Not at all! Dream-crushers will want you to. In return, you give them the middle finger.
“Realistic is the adjective of cynics. Wherever you encounter skeptics, naysayers, and charlatans, you will always encounter this word.” — Chris Guillebeau
Despite so many dream-crushers rearing their ugly heads in, there’s still so much proof out there that you can build your dream lifestyle.
What’s a great habit to build to help you out?
“I want to be remembered as a person who wasn’t afraid to start things.” — Tina Roth Eisenberg
Trying and failing. Over and over and over again.
Try any of the following today, watch the reactions, and applaud yourself for trying and likely failing:
- Approach an attractive stranger with the stupidest line in the world.
- Post something controversial on social media.
- Share a dream with someone who doesn’t really like you.
Was that so bad? Not at all. You’ve tried and failing. Keep at it.
Before you yell at me — I’m not delusional!
I think it’s completely careless to quit your job without a plan. I also find it to be selfish if you plan on following a passion for no money while those around you suffer because you can’t provide financially.
I blog about money, so I understand the importance of it. This is why I introduced the $1k rule for chasing dreams. Oh and…
I have a newsflash for you: You can do everything in your spare time!
You don’t have to quit your job. You don’t have to eat at the homeless shelter. You don’t have to ruin your quality of life to follow a dream. All you have to do is show up and be ready to show the middle finger to detractors. Can you do that?
Luckily for you, we went over how you can make a colossal lifestyle change without going homeless. You have all of the resources that you need to follow a dream, take a risk, or do something that you’ve always wanted to do.
Are you really going to let a dream-crusher bring you down? No, you’re not. You will give them the middle finger.
Finally — FREE tools to help you follow your dreams.
Guess what? I’ve covered these topics and researched everything to death. I’m here to help you.
The only 6 steps for starting a blog. — Simple and straight to the point. You owe it to the world to share your ideas with us.
The ultimate guide to getting started with freelancing. — I released my Amazon book as free content for those of you that are struggling with your finances. I want to see you make more money.
We will have more premium content coming at you. For now, give those dream-crushers the middle finger and have some damn fun! Let’s finish off with an awesome quote and equally epic picture.
“If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” — Frank Zappa