“I’m not like most people.” — Most people
In the last few years I started sharing more articles on my personal Facebook and this has naturally come with criticism. I’m always open to feedback. Sadly, I get useless feedback far too often.
What kind of useless feedback?
“This wouldn’t work for me. My situation is different”
That’s what friends tell me when giving me unsolicited advice. I disagree 100%. I share tips that have worked for me and will work for others. They won’t work for everyone (like any theory), but you can just dismiss something because it’s new to you.
In July of this year I went to check out the World Domination Summit. I had fun meeting new people and reuniting with old friends. It was also an excuse to check out Portland. And, I never ever have a bad time anywhere I go. I’m always up for adventure.
The only problem was that every single person I met thought that they were so unique.
The story was usually the same:
- Person has a shitty job and they hate it.
- Person decides to be more passionate.
- Person quits job and lives in third world countries while telling others to be more passionate.
- Person goes on a speaking tour about how happy they are to have quit job.
Everyone thought they were so special when really everyone had the exact same story.
I get it, you quit your job and are passionate. I’m all about this lifestyle. However, you need to realize that you’re not so unique if everyone in the room has the same story.
This brings me to my next point. I’ve been reading through, “The Obstacle is The Way,” and I absolutely love this book by Ryan Holiday. Holiday says it best when it comes to chasing goals:
“We often assume that the world moves at our leisure. We delay when we should initiate. We jog when we should be running or better yet, sprinting. And then we’re shocked –shocked!—when nothing big ever happens, when opportunities never show up, when new obstacles begin to pile up, or the enemies finally get their act together.”
I hate to break this to you– your story isn’t so special!
[Check out: The Douchebag System For Financial Freedom.]
Why isn’t your story so special?
We all have similar goals. We all want to be happy, have a good job, have cool friends, enjoy new experiences, and avoid feeling miserable.
We all want to avoid pain, misery, and being broke.
If you’re in debt, that’s okay because you’re not alone.
If you can’t decide on how to find your first client, that’s normal.
If you can’t save, that’s cool because we all suck with money.
Your story isn’t as unique as you might think.
What should you do about this?
You need to stop blaming the world for your problems. We all go through the same crap. You’re not the first and you’re certainly not the only person to go through this.
You also need to realize that since your story isn’t so special that this means others have gone through similar issues and you can learn from them. This is why I swear in investing in yourself, picking the minds of successful folks, and reading biographies. These folks have done what you want to do. Learn and steal from them!
How does this impact personal finance?
We all have to deal with the same financial issues:
- Budgeting money.
- Saving up for large expenses.
- Dealing with student loans.
- Making money.
- Cutting back.
- Deciding what to buy next.
- Renting vs owning.
- Credit cards.
- Making more money.
- First dates.
Don’t think that your financial issues are unique. We all struggle with the same problems!
What this means is that you need to learn from others that have been through a similar situation and find what works for you.
All financial advice won’t be applicable to you. I get that. Find what works for you, experiment with new tactics, and make things happen.
The world doesn’t owe you any favors. Your story isn’t so special. Decide what your biggest financial (or life) issue is right now and begin working on it by learning from others, trial-and-error, and failure.