Do you want to go from zero to hero? Are you sick and tired of feeling stuck? This applies to work, dating, your business, and your social life.
The other day I saw a pretty epic promposal on Facebook. I didn’t even realize that a promposal was a thing. I figured that these days everyone just courted on social media. Nope. Turns out that asking someone to prom in a clever way is the thing to do these days. And I think that’s pretty cool.
My brother’s friend did the best promposal of all. He sang a song for his crush of over a decade on the stage in the auditorium in front of hundreds of people. He sang, danced, and finally asked her to prom at the end. She got on stage and they shared a kiss. It was exactly like a scene out of the movies — with the happy ending and all.
He finally built up the courage to make a move on this girl that he had a crush on for over a decade. It was pretty awesome. It was also difficult for me to watch.
Why was it difficult to watch?
He was too nice of a guy. I was proud of him for having the courage to do this. I just knew that it wouldn’t turn out well.
I asked for a follow up and sadly, he was back to being “friend-zoned” a few days later.
Why? Because going straight from zero to hero doesn’t always work out. You get props for trying, but we can’t expect to go from the bottom to the top in one move.
We all want to go from being a nobody to being on top of the world in one shot.
You know what I really hate about movies? When a character goes from zero to hero. That’s not how real life works. In life we struggle. We fail. We don’t always get what we want. Sadly, the underdogs don’t always win. The nerdy kid doesn’t always get the pretty girl in school at the end.
Today I want to show you how you can actually go from zero to hero in life the legit way. You can’t miss the steps in between.
How do you go form zero to hero the legit way?
#1. Build up your confidence.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy” – Dale Carnegie
How confident are you right now? Are you as confident as you would like to be? I know that we can all portray confidence for quick bursts of time, but how confident are we really?
You need to absolutely destroy self-doubt (article linked to at the bottom) if you want to get any results. I don’t care how you do this.
As you build your confidence over time, you will build a life where you’re always taking on new challenges and going after what you want. The goal is to get to the stage where your confident enough to take on new projects without creating excuses in your head.
My top three tips for building confidence are:
- Take action. Always take a TINY step in the right direction instead of doing nothing. Time is far too precious to waste.
- Learn to accept failure. Get into the habit of accepting failure. Don’t be afraid to make a fool of yourself. Nobody will remember your failures in the long run. And if they do, who cares?
- Always remember that you’re going to die one day. Sadly, we can’t live forever. Do you want to die with regrets? I doubt it.
Build up that confidence! Good luck to you.
#2. Jump on your motivation.
Jump on your motivation when it hits. Don’t just post another inspirational quote on social media. Use that burst of motivation to get something done.
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It’s as simple as that. You have to jump on your motivation. It doesn’t matter if it’s five in the morning or on a day that you had other plans. Screw that!
#3. Slow steps towards your final goal.
I believe in building daily habits that lead to a major goal. You can’t just train once a month and expects to see results. You can’t do something once in a while and think that you’re going to see any major transformation.
I believe in setting small daily goals that lead to something major. You can’t be expecting to take on the world in one day. Any goal worth pursuing takes time. You have to build up to it.
And finally…
#4. Do something that’s not guaranteed to work, often.
“The answers don’t matter. At all. The choice of tools doesn’t matter ; the method doesn’t matter. You don’t need a guru ; you need experience, the best kind of experience, the experience of repeated failure.” – Seth Godin
This seems to be the theme around here. You can’t always go for the sure shot. You should get into the habit of taking on challenges that aren’t a lock to work. This will help you go from zero to hero.
You can’t just take a risk once in a while. I want to see you taking on small risks every single day. You have absolutely nothing to lose.
Going from zero to hero usually never works the first time. This is real life. This isn’t a freaking movie. You won’t beat up the star quarterback and get the prettiest girl in town on the first try. You have to work for it. You have to take deliberate steps. Stop waiting for something to happen. Take action towards your goals right now.
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I agree with you. You’re given tips does really make sense. I am okay now with my social life, personal life, and work. At first, I was really in zero. But with my hard works and trials that I have encountered which helps me grow stronger and independent, I was able to become what I am right now. I conquered my fear which is being shy and I set up my priorities in life.
Congrats on getting over being shy! That’s a difficult battle.
Your friend’s promposal’s ending makes me sad, but like you said, at least he had the guts to try. Hopefully he’ll have the guts to be epic over and over in life. 🙂
He has a video to show his friends for the rest of his life! This guy has a video of him singing and dancing on stage in an auditorium. That is amazing. He can always fib about the ending (most guys do!).