“You’re stupid. Don’t you ever use your brain?”
I hear this a lot. You should be hearing this a lot yourself.
Everything that I’ve ever done that has turned out pretty damn positive was met with the, “You’re stupid!” reaction. Some common examples include:
- Attending a community college before university.
- Buying a condo in a new part of town.
- Spending so much time on releasing free content on here.
- Getting into pro wrestling.
You get the point. You see, when you do things differently, you are stupid.
Readers often email me with questions about decisions and what to do next. I find myself giving the same answer pretty much. So why not put it into a post?
I try to be as tactical as possible on here. However, there are times, like today, where I need to throw some theory out at you. I can’t give you all of the answers. I can guide you in the right direction or make things clear for you.
What’s the You’re-Stupid System for deciding what to do next with work, goals, your social life, and starting a business?
It boils down to this one concept:
Always go with the decision that will lead to the AVERAGE (boring) person calling you stupid for having the guts to take on this risk or for doing something different.
I’m not done yet. I’m going to explain my framework for making decisions.
“Boring is always the most risky strategy. Smart businesspeople realize this, and they work to minimize (but not eliminate) the risk from the process.” — Seth Godin
1. Remember that surviving isn’t the goal at Studenomics.
You don’t come here to just survive. You don’t want to just get by. You don’t want to play it safe. That’s no way to live life. The point that I’m trying to make here is that you don’t want to just survive.
Always go with the decision that will force you to grow. It won’t be easy. It won’t even be fun most of the time. But it will always be worth it in the end.
Push yourself to the next level. Do shit that scares you.
This then leads to the next point…
2. Criticism is fun.
“To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” — Aristotle
That quote says it all. Don’t be afraid of criticism. That should be the last thing on your mind.
Yes, it’s tough to avoid criticism. Unsolicited advice always comes from all angles. None of us can avoid it. Guess what? It doesn’t matter. When you have a decision to make on any level, please try not to let what others will think or say discourage you. They don’t have to live with the consequences or with whatever happens next.
And finally…
3. You never have anything to lose.
What do you have to lose? Nothing! You never have anything to lose. So you better stop acting like the sky is going to fall down or that you’re going to be excommunicated from society. That won’t happen. Nobody will ever remember your failures because they don’t matter.
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Your homework before we part ways is simple:
I want you to remember this one thing. Think about how you’re going to be called stupid this week. Go for it. Then don’t take it personally when you get called stupid. Not everyone has to understand.
If you don’t agree with anything in here, that’s cool. Studenomics isn’t for everyone. I’m going to be releasing premium content next week.
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Yeah, I get that reaction frequently:
“You get up at 4:30am each morning to work out?”
“You work a full time job, then spend a few hours on blogging?”
They never say the next sentence….but you can guess what it is….
Haha that’s funny. They may even tell you that it’s impossible, yet here you are doing it!
Yeah, I get the “you’re stupid” look when I rattle off my normal schedule. Apparently, I am a little nuts. But the busier I am, the more I accomplish, and the happier I feel generally.
That’s a scenario I didn’t even think of! Keep up the nuts schedule lol.
I agree, i would rather be criticized than do nothing. Avoiding those criticism helps me turn those “you’re stupid!” reactions into “good job!”.
Criticism isn’t always so bad. It shows that people care enough to react!