Do you need a specific day to tell someone how you feel? Is Valentine’s Day a huge marketing scam?
This article was originally published on February 13, 2009. I have come a long way since then and have had many enjoyable and unforgettable Valentine’s Day celebrations. For some reason this 200 word piece has sparked some interesting comments over the last four years. I wanted to highlight the female comments. Any guy that totally bashes Valentine’s Day, usually just hasn’t had a great one. Plus, most of us guys just hate spending money.
Do you need a specific day to show someone appreciation? Do you need to go for a fancy and expensive dinner when you could cook some better food at home? Why do hotel/restaurant rates increase significantly just because it’s February 14th?
After you ponder these thoughts you will come up with a clear answer in your head. However, some bad news for the guys- no matter what you do you’re not getting out of spending money on Valentine’s Day. Sorry.
If you’re going to remember anything about this article then remember this: you don’t need to spend a fortune on this holiday to have a good time, just do what feels right.
My answer is yes. Valentine’s Day is a marketing scam just like every other Hallmark holiday. Any holiday that forces you to spend money is a scam. However, it’s your money and you decide how you want to spend it. If you’re single, then treat yourself to something nice. If you’re dating, then have some fun with your partner without blowing your savings.
What did the female readers of Studenomics have to say about Valentine’s Day?
Suzie wrote in with some positive thoughts:
“I actually do think that Valentine’s Day has been exploited by marketing departments. It’s become hugely commercialised with many people having over-inflated expectations which subsequently cause rows because their partner is supposed to *know* that “I don’t want to do anything special” means “Please hire a horse-drawn carriage and book a table at The Ritz”. However, the essential core is a good thing, reminding us not to take people we love for granted and giving us an excuse to make them feel special.”
Jasmin was pretty negative on the holiday:
“In my universe, it’s pretty much always been 50%-off-chocolate eve. I’m the one always getting in trouble because I say “I don’t care” and actually mean it, and then he (whoever he is at the time) does something for me and gets upset that 1) I’m not crying from happiness and 2) didn’t do anything for him. I hate cut flowers of any flavours. I don’t consider dead plants to be representative of “eternal love”, and a waste besides. Get me something potted if you have to go that route. Buy me chocolate, if you absolutely have to, but for the love of everything do it the day after and catch the discounts. Save your time/energy/money/creativity for my birthday, which is the important date as far as I’m concerned.”
There are a few more passionate comments below. Check them out!
What do you ladies think about Valentine’s Day? For a more detailed look, check out the economics of your love life in your 20s.